Life by its very nature is in a constant state of flow. People grow, move on, evolve and change, just as nations do. It’s inevitable. Yet occasionally, we still seem to have issues with this very fact.
We can get frustrated when things don’t go to plan and instead present us with a range of unexpected and not always desirable, alternate situations.
Or when someone doesn’t react in a way we assumed they would, forcing us to consider how they’ve changed.
Or worse yet, we can feel downright threatened and anxious, with an impending change that we refuse to accept.
For some, a change may well be as good as a holiday. It has the potential to usher in a new sense of hope and a divergent direction.
But if we’re honest, change in general is more often than not, the spark that lights the fuse of fear in most of us (on some level at least).
The recent sway of the political pendulum in the States has provoked a plethora of responses around the world. Public protests aside, you only need to view social media to confirm that plenty of people have strong opinions on the topic.
Like it or not, ushering in any new leader is a preamble to change. Change of a scale that provokes thought, opinions and naturally emotional reactions.
So it would appear that a spanner has been thrown into the works and we’re all waiting to see what happens next. It’s a little disconcerting I dare say, for either ‘side of the
“Nations start to go wrong not when they have this or that misguided policy or leader but when the emotional maturity that can be brought to bear on political questions falls below a critical level.” http://www.thebookoflife.org/
Change is afoot
But politics aside, it’s healthy to wonder whether part of our frustration or even angst at such shifts in our lives, are more because of our issues with accepting change, than anything else.
At what point do we stop, to really take it all in?
At what point do we begin to better understand that change is inevitable and pretty darn constant?
And rather than letting this get to us, should we work out just who or what we can change, in order to best get on with life?
When change is afoot, our immediate reaction can be to blame other factors, while we casually sit in the passenger seat, silently comfortable in the knowledge that we may just be able to work our way out of this predicament, avoid it and stick with what we know.
Our other response, if you’re like me at least, is to figure out what or who I can change so that I don’t personally have to deal with it.
In most cases this involves me trying to change everybody else, but me. Turns out that’s not such a winning formula after all.
“It’s maddening – but true – that we can underestimate the consequences of change and also overestimate them”. http://www.thebookoflife.org/the-acceptance-of-change/
The man who wanted to change the world
The simple story of a supposed monk from around the year 1100 AD, offers us some perspective.
When he was a young man, he wanted to change the world.
He found it was difficult to change the world, so he tried to change his nation.
When he found he couldn’t change the nation, he began to focus on his town. He couldn’t change the town and as an older man, he tried to change his family.
Now, as an old man, he realised the only thing he could change was himself, and suddenly he realised that if long ago he had have changed himself, he could have made an impact on his family. He and his family could then have made an impact on their town. Their impact could have changed the nation and he could indeed have changed the world.
Working with Change
With the current state of world affairs there is a definite sense of disorientation and confusion. The wheel of change is in motion and in some ways, we are powerless to stop it.
For those of us who hope to steer it at least, then there is power perhaps in starting small.
Looking at what we can do to change our views and preconceived ideas is a bold beginning. It means fending off fear, avoiding the emotional and separating fact from fiction. No easy feat!
It’s about strapping ourselves in for the long haul and taking our time to drive through the obstacles that face us along the way.
It certainly doesn’t mean we have to give up our principles and be a mat for others to trample on. In fact the power to make change comes from the smallest, day-to-day actions.
Knowledge of ourselves and how we can spark change starting at home, arms us with the knowhow and will power to slug it out, confidently, against all sorts of forces we face.