When was the last time you did something really awesome? I mean something out of the ordinary, silly, bordering on reckless, living life on the edge? Or maybe even just laughed so hard, your cheeks were sore from smiling and your tummy hurt from the force of a good giggle?
If you’re like me…..aaaaages ago (staying up till 9:30pm on a weeknight watching ‘My Kitchen Rules’ is about the extent of my recklessness lately).
Such a shame really that we don’t partake in more frequent bouts of silliness or choose to deviate from the ordinary, because it’s at these moments when we feel most alive, after all.
‘Do one thing every day that scares you’ Baz Luhrmann
I don’t think it’s any coincidence that as our age increases, our willingness or opportunities to partake in a little ‘out of the ordinary’ or recklessness (if you will) diminishes. It’s a sign that we have greater responsibilities or more fears (some may even argue more brains).
The reality is however, that time keeps ticking, the days fly by and we all come to just rely on, assume or even take for granted that we’re living. But we’re not. Not really.
I say this because as a mum and a teacher and a wife and a soon-to-be 38 year old woman, I’m a little tired of playing it safe of late. Tired of not letting go. I’m feeling like that balloon which so desperately wants to be set free, that second before you tie it off.
I remember as a fresh faced youngster always being drawn to those who were risk takers, travellers, non-conformists, probably because that wasn’t me by nature and because they were charismatic, interesting and seemed to fully ‘experience’ life. To really be living.
There is no denying when you’re a working woman, mum or adult for that matter with responsibilities, you can’t just drop everything and run off to climb Mt Everest, but there’s got to be little ways every now and again where you can toe-the-line just enough, to remind you that it’s good to be alive and to be you.
The well-known educationalist and TED talk extraordinaire Sir Ken Robinson, speaks often about passion and the need to find it in our lives. In one such presentation he quotes the Dalai Lama who commented on the marvel that is our existence on this planet.
‘To be born at all, is a miracle! You’re not here for long…….so what are you going to do with this life, now that you have it? What are you going to do with it?’
Ken Robinson goes on to say ‘very many people spend their entire lives, doing things they don’t really care for. They endure it, waiting till the weekend with a general sense of tolerance’.
(audible Wheeze) Is that me? Maybe?
I think it’s fair to say that a level of sensibility has to come into play, when relying on a job to pay a mortgage, which provides a comfortable home for your children, who also happen to eat…a lot, but yes, there has to be more than the daily grind prompting us forward.
So on that disconcerting thought, I’m endeavouring to put together a ‘go-to’ list for those times during a week, when I need to remind myself to get out there and ‘live a little’ (some of which may be a little over the top, by some’s standards, but I figure, why not? You do only live once).
It could certainly do with additions however, so I’m ever hopeful that you can help build this list with me and together we’ll be on our reckless way.
- Jump on a swing at the local play area and go nuts (if you’re like me, you’ll have to beat the kids to it first)
- Wake up early and watch the sunrise (or if that’s just too much, watch the sunset with a glass of wine in hand)
- Hire a flash convertible car for the day and just drive
- Go climb a mountain
- Chuck a sickie at work and go for a surf or take a surf lesson
- Organise a night of wine tasting and playing Pictionary (a lethal combo)
- Go dancing with some girlfriends until the wee hours …..of a weeknight (look out)
- Cook a new meal from a recipe book (simple I know, but I never do this!)
- Take a flight, anywhere
- Go roller/ ice skating
- Travel, anywhere
- Go for a weekend away with an old and dear friend
- Write an honest letter to someone you admire
- Sleep out under the stars one night
- Go for a walk on the beach
- (Insert your own idea by posting a comment at the end of this blog)
When we are so accustomed to playing by the rules, sometimes even guilty of enduring or simply tolerating life, I think we owe it to ourselves to let go a little, in order to remind us that we are indeed alive. And what a very special thing that is!